If you're following me on snapchat you'll know that I love a good notebook or journal or basically anything pretty that I can jot down ideas and make lists in! I have a notebook in every room of my house so that I can always record my ideas when I get a moment of inspiration. It's far from easy being your own boss and trying to stay on top of all that comes with that title can be challenging sometimes. I've developed some practices that I find really help me to stay motivated and organised. I am a very organised and strategical person and if that organisation goes off track, it can put my whole week off. I also think that whatever you do right before you go to bed can have a significant impact on the following day. With that in mind, I thought I'd share my own little "before bed habits/rituals" with you and maybe they can help you too.
1. I read: An actual book, not a newsfeed on my phone. I like to read books that stimulate my mind and motivate me. So my choice of a page flicker would be a business book or a book I can learn from and that can be health, nutrition or business.
2. I make a to-do list: This can be done right before your working day finishes, but this little routine is also great for your personal goals too. I find it makes my working day so much smoother when I've got a to-do list. I know exactly what I need to do and once that list is ticked off, I feel a sense of accomplishment.
3. I take time for my husband, friends, family & my pupper: If you didn't already know, my husband is also my business partner. It works for some and not for others. For us, it works perfectly. The only downside is that it can be difficult to leave the business. Because we're both in it, it's our life! So naturally enough, we find ourselves always talking work. Not in a bad way, we help each other stay driven and motivated. But we do need time hubbo & wife time too. For a long time, I did find it a struggle to make time to meet friends but for your mental health it is vital, even if it's only 10 minutes, you do it! Having a dog is a great excuse to make yourself get out for a walk and take in some fresh air.
4. I reflect on the day: I don't keep a diary, but I do have a journal called A Happiness Planner, it's a 52 week journal that I use once a week to reflect on the week just gone. It's a great way to express gratitude and self evaluate. At night, I do a quick reflection of the day I had. I think about all that happened, good and not so good. I look back at the various situations and scenarios I've faced and I think about how I dealt with them. That's actually a great way of saving yourself from anxiety. If you're not ok with how you left a situation, reflecting on it can make you more self aware and can prevent the same outcome the next time you're faced with a similar situation. I also make sure that I acknowledge all the good things that happen in my day.
5. I pray: I've often silenced a group of people with this statement. But yes, I pray, every single night. I don't go to mass but I have faith in God and in challenging times, I have found that praying has gotten me through. I like to think I have a good relationship with God and if I have a personal battle or struggle, I am always reassured by praying. My grandparents raised me and I use my nightly prayer kind of like a last link to them to say goodnight, I love you both & I miss you both. I thank God for all I have and I pray for those who aren't as blessed as me.
6. I unplug: The only reason my phone comes to bed with me is for my alarm! I will buy an alarm clock some day!!! I'm not big into facebook anymore, I find it too negative and I like to keep negativity at arms length. I personally think using my phone right before I go to sleep leaves my mind wandering and makes me feel really groggy the next morning.
7. I plan my sleep: Yeah this one sounds a little nuts, but there are some days where I could work a 16+ hour day. So I have seen myself think "ok, I can work until X o'clock and get what I need done urgently done and if I wake up at X o'clock I can do this, that and the other" I even use a sleep calculator app so I know what time to sleep and wake at. I could work every waking hour and while that might seem like a great thing, it's not. Sleep is super super important.
8. My head hits the pillow filled with positivity: Don't get me wrong, I'm not a bright shining ray of light 24/7! I don't see life through rose tinted glasses, I have bad, sometimes awful days too. BUT I try to see the silver lining and always try to put whatever bad thing that happened to bed on a positive note. It could always be worse right? That's where a daily reflection really comes in handy. It's hard to stay positive all of the time. But I am a firm believer in what you put out there, you get back and thankfully, to date I've had a LOT more positives than negatives.
9. I picture and plan tomorrow's success: Yes, I am that confident in my abilities that I tell myself that tomorrow is going to be a GREAT day!! (might not be true, but if you believe hard enough....) I think about what I'm going to do, for example, a new deal and I will imagine I'm at the meeting, I'll play out the whole scene and it ends with me shaking their hand and saying I'm so excited to work with you. Even though owning a business is scary AF, I always imagine the best possible outcome. My company motto is "no negativity on board"
I've written this from a business woman's perspective, but I genuinely think those 9 things I do can help any person with clarity, positivity and an overall better outlook on what they hope to achieve. Like the title says, it's the only way I keep my sh*t together!
As always, I hope you enjoyed the read.
Ruthie H x